A perfect quote.

“Do you not think that the problem might come from the very fact that you are angry at us for complaining, rather than angry at your fellow boys and men for this enduring misogyny? Instead of being furious that we point out that many men do act this way – including men these women trust completely – be angry that there are men that will treat your mother, sister, daughter, friend, girlfriend badly purely because they are female. Not only that but they are giving you a bad name, not us.”

Replace men-related stuff with “feminists”, “misogyny” with “bigotry”, and women-related stuff with “[marginalized group]” and it’s the same thing as this.

via Feminist Disavowal Of Cissexism « Genderbitch: Musings of a Trans Chick.

I’ve copied this here just so I can access this easily if/when needed. It’s from comment 3 on that post, and the commenter references genderqueer on tumblr as the source and it’s so perfect. Just a wonderful sentiment.


Unemployment and JSA

I’ve been a lazy blogger, I have got a couple of posts percolating and have a new project which I’m going to try and launch proper this week. We’ll see how it goes.

I’ve mostly been unemployed since leaving uni. There’s been a couple of fantastic jobs that I’ve been passed over for or have been withdrawn which has been quite depressing. But I keep on, applied for a pharmacy dispensing job today, which would be perfect for me in every way – temporary (finishes March next year), full time, NVQ training. So, fingers crossed for that.

‘Real’ women and ‘real’ beauty

Witch.Wordswrote a blog post regarding Doves casting call for a ‘Real Beauty’ photo session in NY. Here is the casting call:


Glee and Beauty

I don’t watch Glee. I’ve listened to the music and quite like it. From what I’ve seen during the adverts they vastly under-use some of the voices at their disposal but that’s mostly subjective I feel.

Required background knowledge: Glee club is a non-religious choir-type group singing, with melodies and harmonies etc. One of the cast members (the only PoC in the group I believe, but I may be wrong) is a fat black girl. She is a confident, bubbly young woman with a fantastic strong voice. Seriously, it pours out of her like vomit. Awesome, musical vomit, but I’m sure you get the picture.

The thing I want to discuss is an advert I saw recently. The group was at some sporting event as cheerleaders (it was indoors – basketball? Unimportant, anyway) and the aforementioned girl was singing Beautiful by Christina Aguilera. For those who don’t know, the song is about inner beauty, I guess, and feeling beautiful despite other’s opinions. For example, the chorus:

I am beautiful no matter what they say
Words can’t bring me down
I am beautiful in every single way
Yes, words can’t bring me down, oh no
So don’t you bring me down today

Now, yes this song sends a powerful message of self-worth and confidence and self-acceptance. And from what I’ve seen of the adverts, she is a confident lady who is comfortable with herself. But I can’t help but feel cynical about why she was chosen to sing this song.
Is it another: fat women – especially fat women of colour can’t possibly be found to be beautiful by ‘conventional’ means. She must feel beautiful despite what others say because no one would ever findher beautiful.

I must admit I always find myself worrying if I’m reading too much into things when I find fat hating, racist, misogynistic messages in entertainment, but this message seems so obvious without being overtly hateful at the same time.
It’s times like this that remind me how we’re swimming in this kind of imagery. And its disturbing to say the least.

UK Election 2010

So, the results are almost in, and it’s a hung parliament. It’s been an interesting one, from the TV debates to the media to the utter disgrace of the disenfrachisement of voters. I’ll put a jump here, as this seems the best place to put it, and the post is going to be fairly epic. More

Blog Note

Just moved this blog across to a WordPress domain ( https://blueeyed1987.wordpress.com). Will be setting up a redirect from the old to the new at somepoint during the week.

Don’t judge my family


The Election campaign is in full swing over here in the UK. I’m personally rooting for the LibDems, and live in a LibDem constituency, although it’s a marginal seat with Plaid Cymru in second. But this is mainly background. What I want to talk about is a piece of legislation that the Conservative party have pleged if they get into power.
It’s a Marriage Tax Break. More

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